2015-03-18 12:43
Lagos - A 26-year-old lady, Aishat Noble-Mustapha, was stabbed
severally to death by an unidentified man at her residence in Ogudu
GRA, Lagos State, Punch reports.
Aishat,
a worker with Silverbird Cinemas, was stabbed in the stomach 11 times
by a lover, who she had a disagreement with after closing from work on
Saturday, March 14, around 7.30pm.
The
Police Public Relations Officer, Lagos State command, Kenneth Nwosu,
who confirmed the incident, said the suspect has been arrested and will
be going to the State Criminal Investigation Department for further
probe.
The corpse of Noble-Mustapha was taken to a mortuary in Yaba by policemen from the Ogudu Police Division.
Read more at Punch
Wednesday, 18 March 2015
10 sex myths that must go
By: Dorothy Black
2015-03-18 13:46
1. Sex is between a man and a woman, with a penis in a vagina
Where does that leave people who are intersex, homosexual or transgender? Or those who don't like penetration? Or those who only practice anal or oral sex? Are lesbians not having sex when they get each other off?
Think of 'sex' as an umbrella term for all the consensual sexy acts that get you hot and bothered with someone else – or yourself.
Maybe people are uncomfortable thinking of 'real sex' as anything but PIV (penis in vagina) sex, because considering 'sex' as an inclusive term raises guilty feels about when you first experienced sex or lost your ‘virginity’. Which brings me to…
2. Virginity is a thing
Is virginity a conceptual or a physical actuality?
If the latter, then anything can 'take' your virginity, including a tampon or a jump in the pool. Also, nothing ‘breaks’ your hymen, because this little membrane doesn’t totally cover the entrance to your vagina.
Your vagina isn't a Pringles can that you pop (although once you pop, you might not want to stop). If it’s a concept, then when do you 'lose' your virginity? The dictionary will say something like: you lose your virginity when you practise sexual intercourse for the first time.
If sex is an umbrella term and/or you don’t practice PIV sex, do you remain a virgin regardless of all the crazy kinky sex shit you get up to? Are you still a virgin if you've only ever practised mutual masturbation and anal or oral sex?
3. First time sex hurts
Any penetrative sex hurts whenever you’re not ready and you’re expecting the worst. Your body clams up, your vagina clams up, in many cases your vaginal lubrication will dry up and the friction will hurt. But it doesn't have to hurt.
I'm not saying it won’t maybe be weird and uncomfortable, but pain doesn't have to happen. It’s not an inherent feature in your first penetrative experience.
4. Foreplay is for her, men are always 'on'
The shtick we’re told over and over again is that women need more foreplay than men and men are always ready. If you’re going to accept that ‘sex’ is a bunch of different sexual acts, what is foreplay?
The story we’re told about foreplay is: To 'get her ready for sex' practice some oral sex or lick her nipples … then when she is ready for penetration you can have sex with her.
There is foreplay and then there is sex.' But all that 'foreplay' stuff is really just sex and you’re either ready for it or you’re not. You either need slow sex and a longer build up or you can get off on a quickie.
If you want to talk about foreplay, then talk about the chemistry you and your guy have and work on as part of your relationship culture – the intimacy you generate throughout the day in your conversations, your displays of affection and how you invest time in each other.
5. Men want sex, women want emotional connection
This is an incredibly old model, one that is sexist, old-fashioned and stupid. It’s the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus paradigm.
My paradigm is: Humans are from Earth, like to socialize, generally like to copulate, want to be accepted and have feelings. We have been socialized to believe that men and women are so fundamentally different that we forget the humanity underpinning it all.
6. Great sex comes naturally
Great sex is like learning how to cook. Everyone can eat food, just like everyone can bump genitals together. But while some people will be content to eat an apple, others will learn how to make the finest French apple tart and serve it with dollops of clotted cream and sugared strawberries.
Being a good lover depends mostly on stuff that has nothing to do with your genitals, including self-knowledge, being able to communicate clearly, being open to exploring and being generous with your time and attention – and learning some skills.
Unfortunately, when most of us are presented with our first lovers (usually at a very young age, see above 'Sex is between a vagina and penis') our experience is of chomping on a plain apple when we were expecting the French apple tart. Sadly, this can easily colour one’s experience of sex and desire, and label the whole fiasco as less than satisfactory fact forever and always.
7. Everybody likes sex, right?
Well no. Some people really don’t. Maybe it’s due to some trauma or bad early experiences with intimacy and sex. Maybe sex just isn't that much of a priority. But there are also asexual people who just literally do not feel sexual attraction or desire.
It doesn't mean they don’t fall in love, need or want physical tenderness or have successful relationships; they just don’t feel the lusty pull of desire on their loins.
8. Your number matters.
No it doesn't. Simple as that. Quantity means as little to your morality as it does to your prowess as a lover. The only purpose someone’s judgement and shaming serves around the number of men and women I've been with, is as an accurate measure of their friend and/or partner viability in my life.
Save yourself a lot of time by not taking responsibility for someone else’s issues when they have a problem with your 'number'.
9. Sex is about orgasm
Another product of the goal-driven society. Orgasm is great, no one is denying that. But it is not the only pleasure we derive from physical intimacy with each other. Loving and/or enjoyable skin-to-skin interaction sets off a chemical reaction in the body that releases a lot of happy hormones that go a long way to build affection and bonding.
10. Men reach their sexual prime when they’re 18, women when they’re 35.
I'm going use the scientific term for this: Rubbish. This myth unfolded from very old, socially dated research from the Kinsey data.
What is now being posited is genital prime and sexual prime. The former is driven by biological factors (hormones, health and so on) and the latter social factors (your experience, maturity and general joie de vivre).
Sexual anthropologist Bella Ellwood-Clayton writes about this in her book ‘Sex Drive’ and says: ‘Female desire can be peaking all along, ebbing and flowing throughout the life course.’
2015-03-18 13:46
1. Sex is between a man and a woman, with a penis in a vagina
Where does that leave people who are intersex, homosexual or transgender? Or those who don't like penetration? Or those who only practice anal or oral sex? Are lesbians not having sex when they get each other off?
Think of 'sex' as an umbrella term for all the consensual sexy acts that get you hot and bothered with someone else – or yourself.
Maybe people are uncomfortable thinking of 'real sex' as anything but PIV (penis in vagina) sex, because considering 'sex' as an inclusive term raises guilty feels about when you first experienced sex or lost your ‘virginity’. Which brings me to…
2. Virginity is a thing
Is virginity a conceptual or a physical actuality?
If the latter, then anything can 'take' your virginity, including a tampon or a jump in the pool. Also, nothing ‘breaks’ your hymen, because this little membrane doesn’t totally cover the entrance to your vagina.
Your vagina isn't a Pringles can that you pop (although once you pop, you might not want to stop). If it’s a concept, then when do you 'lose' your virginity? The dictionary will say something like: you lose your virginity when you practise sexual intercourse for the first time.
If sex is an umbrella term and/or you don’t practice PIV sex, do you remain a virgin regardless of all the crazy kinky sex shit you get up to? Are you still a virgin if you've only ever practised mutual masturbation and anal or oral sex?
3. First time sex hurts
Any penetrative sex hurts whenever you’re not ready and you’re expecting the worst. Your body clams up, your vagina clams up, in many cases your vaginal lubrication will dry up and the friction will hurt. But it doesn't have to hurt.
I'm not saying it won’t maybe be weird and uncomfortable, but pain doesn't have to happen. It’s not an inherent feature in your first penetrative experience.
4. Foreplay is for her, men are always 'on'
The shtick we’re told over and over again is that women need more foreplay than men and men are always ready. If you’re going to accept that ‘sex’ is a bunch of different sexual acts, what is foreplay?
The story we’re told about foreplay is: To 'get her ready for sex' practice some oral sex or lick her nipples … then when she is ready for penetration you can have sex with her.
There is foreplay and then there is sex.' But all that 'foreplay' stuff is really just sex and you’re either ready for it or you’re not. You either need slow sex and a longer build up or you can get off on a quickie.
If you want to talk about foreplay, then talk about the chemistry you and your guy have and work on as part of your relationship culture – the intimacy you generate throughout the day in your conversations, your displays of affection and how you invest time in each other.
5. Men want sex, women want emotional connection
This is an incredibly old model, one that is sexist, old-fashioned and stupid. It’s the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus paradigm.
My paradigm is: Humans are from Earth, like to socialize, generally like to copulate, want to be accepted and have feelings. We have been socialized to believe that men and women are so fundamentally different that we forget the humanity underpinning it all.
6. Great sex comes naturally
Great sex is like learning how to cook. Everyone can eat food, just like everyone can bump genitals together. But while some people will be content to eat an apple, others will learn how to make the finest French apple tart and serve it with dollops of clotted cream and sugared strawberries.
Being a good lover depends mostly on stuff that has nothing to do with your genitals, including self-knowledge, being able to communicate clearly, being open to exploring and being generous with your time and attention – and learning some skills.
Unfortunately, when most of us are presented with our first lovers (usually at a very young age, see above 'Sex is between a vagina and penis') our experience is of chomping on a plain apple when we were expecting the French apple tart. Sadly, this can easily colour one’s experience of sex and desire, and label the whole fiasco as less than satisfactory fact forever and always.
7. Everybody likes sex, right?
Well no. Some people really don’t. Maybe it’s due to some trauma or bad early experiences with intimacy and sex. Maybe sex just isn't that much of a priority. But there are also asexual people who just literally do not feel sexual attraction or desire.
It doesn't mean they don’t fall in love, need or want physical tenderness or have successful relationships; they just don’t feel the lusty pull of desire on their loins.
8. Your number matters.
No it doesn't. Simple as that. Quantity means as little to your morality as it does to your prowess as a lover. The only purpose someone’s judgement and shaming serves around the number of men and women I've been with, is as an accurate measure of their friend and/or partner viability in my life.
Save yourself a lot of time by not taking responsibility for someone else’s issues when they have a problem with your 'number'.
9. Sex is about orgasm
Another product of the goal-driven society. Orgasm is great, no one is denying that. But it is not the only pleasure we derive from physical intimacy with each other. Loving and/or enjoyable skin-to-skin interaction sets off a chemical reaction in the body that releases a lot of happy hormones that go a long way to build affection and bonding.
10. Men reach their sexual prime when they’re 18, women when they’re 35.
I'm going use the scientific term for this: Rubbish. This myth unfolded from very old, socially dated research from the Kinsey data.
What is now being posited is genital prime and sexual prime. The former is driven by biological factors (hormones, health and so on) and the latter social factors (your experience, maturity and general joie de vivre).
Sexual anthropologist Bella Ellwood-Clayton writes about this in her book ‘Sex Drive’ and says: ‘Female desire can be peaking all along, ebbing and flowing throughout the life course.’
Residents in Imo lament hike in fuel prices
2015-03-18 13:46
Owerri- Residents in Owerri, Imo state capital, have expressed their displeasure over the continued hike in the price of the fuel despite the Federal Government slashing it to N87 per litre, Channelstv reports.
Investigations revealed that some filling stations in the city sell at 97 naira, 100 naira and 115 naira per litre instead of N87.
The Independent Petroleum Marketers, at a joint meeting between petroleum marketers in Imo and Abia State in the south-east, have disclosed that reasons why they sell at higher prices is due to non-availability of fuel at the government approved fuel depots in the South-East and South-South.
The Zonal Chairman of the petroleum marketers in Aba and Imo unit, Bobby Eberedick, explained that this has led them to buy from private fuel depots where they sell higher than the government approved prices.
Read more at Channelstv
Owerri- Residents in Owerri, Imo state capital, have expressed their displeasure over the continued hike in the price of the fuel despite the Federal Government slashing it to N87 per litre, Channelstv reports.
Investigations revealed that some filling stations in the city sell at 97 naira, 100 naira and 115 naira per litre instead of N87.
The Independent Petroleum Marketers, at a joint meeting between petroleum marketers in Imo and Abia State in the south-east, have disclosed that reasons why they sell at higher prices is due to non-availability of fuel at the government approved fuel depots in the South-East and South-South.
The Zonal Chairman of the petroleum marketers in Aba and Imo unit, Bobby Eberedick, explained that this has led them to buy from private fuel depots where they sell higher than the government approved prices.
Read more at Channelstv
Thursday, 12 March 2015
Buhari alleged to be entering agreements to reverse anti-gay law
Muhammadu Buhari. (File: AFP)
According to reports he has been entering into discussions with some European countries in order to receive financial support by reversing the law.
The allegations were made by the People's Democratic Party Director of Media and Publicity, Femi Fani-Kayode at a press conference.
Kayode further expressed that Buhari wants to legalise same-sex relationships in the country if only he could get the power.
This happened during Buhari's last trip to London where leaders of some of the countries made an offer that he is willing to consider.
The PDP has however called this shameful behaviour and the matter should be brought to the people of Nigeria.
For more on this story visit DailyIndependent
TB Joshua appeals building collapse ruling
2015-03-12 20:16
Lagos - Nigerian televangelist TB Joshua has lodged an appeal against a court ruling that he should testify about a fatal building collapse at his Lagos megachurch, an inquest was told on Thursday.
Lawyer Seun Abimbola, representing the preacher known to his followers as "The Prophet", announced the appeal as he explained his client's fourth no-show at a hearing probing the tragedy.
A total of 116 people were killed, 81 of them South Africans, when a guesthouse for foreign followers of Joshua's Synagogue Church of All Nations (SCOAN) came down on September 12 last year.
"We have filed a notice of appeal in respect of the high court ruling," Abimbola said, referring to a March 6 judgment that rejected Joshua's claim that he should not be called as a witness.
"We have also asked for a stay of execution of the judgment."
Joshua, a self-proclaimed miracle worker and faith healer who counts African presidents and powerful politicians among his flock, has blamed the tragedy on sabotage.
But a series of expert witnesses have told the court that shoddy building work was more likely.
Coroner Oyetade Komolafe told the hearing that he expected Joshua to be present following the high court ruling, which backed his decision to call him to give evidence.
"He is supposed to be here. I would have reminded you by issuing a bench warrant for his arrest but I don't want to do that," Komolafe told Abimbola.
"I want you to now give a date you are bringing him to court."
Lawyer Akinbolahan Adediran, representing the Lagos State government, said they had not been served with the notice of appeal, "so the high court ruling stands".
Meanwhile, Olusegun Oyenuga of the Council for the Regulation of Engineering in Nigeria said its investigation pinpointed structural defects as the cause of the collapse.
"We carried out an analysis and saw that the foundation was undersized," said Oyenuga, whose organisation is the umbrella body for engineers across Nigeria.
"The columns (pillars) and beams were not strong enough. The design of the building was not properly done. In fact, the design was not handled by a qualified structural engineer."
Weak foundations made the building cave in because additional floors were being added to it, he added.
The hearing was adjourned until Friday.
Lagos - Nigerian televangelist TB Joshua has lodged an appeal against a court ruling that he should testify about a fatal building collapse at his Lagos megachurch, an inquest was told on Thursday.
Lawyer Seun Abimbola, representing the preacher known to his followers as "The Prophet", announced the appeal as he explained his client's fourth no-show at a hearing probing the tragedy.
A total of 116 people were killed, 81 of them South Africans, when a guesthouse for foreign followers of Joshua's Synagogue Church of All Nations (SCOAN) came down on September 12 last year.
"We have filed a notice of appeal in respect of the high court ruling," Abimbola said, referring to a March 6 judgment that rejected Joshua's claim that he should not be called as a witness.
"We have also asked for a stay of execution of the judgment."
Joshua, a self-proclaimed miracle worker and faith healer who counts African presidents and powerful politicians among his flock, has blamed the tragedy on sabotage.
But a series of expert witnesses have told the court that shoddy building work was more likely.
Coroner Oyetade Komolafe told the hearing that he expected Joshua to be present following the high court ruling, which backed his decision to call him to give evidence.
"He is supposed to be here. I would have reminded you by issuing a bench warrant for his arrest but I don't want to do that," Komolafe told Abimbola.
"I want you to now give a date you are bringing him to court."
Lawyer Akinbolahan Adediran, representing the Lagos State government, said they had not been served with the notice of appeal, "so the high court ruling stands".
Meanwhile, Olusegun Oyenuga of the Council for the Regulation of Engineering in Nigeria said its investigation pinpointed structural defects as the cause of the collapse.
"We carried out an analysis and saw that the foundation was undersized," said Oyenuga, whose organisation is the umbrella body for engineers across Nigeria.
"The columns (pillars) and beams were not strong enough. The design of the building was not properly done. In fact, the design was not handled by a qualified structural engineer."
Weak foundations made the building cave in because additional floors were being added to it, he added.
The hearing was adjourned until Friday.
Friday, 6 March 2015
‘Jim Iyke is not the father of Nadia Buari’s twins’
015-03-06 10:04
Lagos - Ghanaian TV host, Vanessa Gyan has said that Nollywood actor Jim Iyke is not the father of Nadia Buari’s twins, reports Nigerian Entertainment Today(NET)
Vanessa Gyan, who hosts the ‘Late Nite Celebrity Show’ in Ghana, revealed that Nadia gave birth in a hospital in Atlanta, USA, in the presence of her mother and brother.
Vanessa claims that Nadia’s fiancé’s identity will not be made known for now.
The TV host stated that Jim Iyke, who was previously engaged to the actress, is not the father.
Another report also states that Nadia met her soon to be husband in the university they both attended.
Read more at NET
Lagos - Ghanaian TV host, Vanessa Gyan has said that Nollywood actor Jim Iyke is not the father of Nadia Buari’s twins, reports Nigerian Entertainment Today(NET)
Vanessa Gyan, who hosts the ‘Late Nite Celebrity Show’ in Ghana, revealed that Nadia gave birth in a hospital in Atlanta, USA, in the presence of her mother and brother.
Vanessa claims that Nadia’s fiancé’s identity will not be made known for now.
The TV host stated that Jim Iyke, who was previously engaged to the actress, is not the father.
Another report also states that Nadia met her soon to be husband in the university they both attended.
Read more at NET
Agbaje begs Igbos not to travel for Easter
The April 11 governorship election comes a week after the Easter celebrations.
Most Igbos in the state are supporters of the PDP.
Agbaje made the appeal on Thursday during his conferment with a chieftaincy title of “Ezi Nwanne Ndigbo 1” (beloved brother of the Igbo) by Eze Cyril Anomneze.
Agbaje promised that the state would be a home to all tribes where no one would be discriminated against.
Read more at The Sun.
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